Defining My Way: Choosing a Life That’s Truly Mine
For years, I lived by other people’s rules. Society told me what success should look like, family told me what my responsibilities were, and fear whispered that I couldn’t step outside of those lines. But one day, I finally realized: I didn’t have to keep playing a role in someone else’s story. I could write my own.
That moment is what led me to name my business Defining My Way. Funny thing? I named it before I ever Googled the phrase. Later, I found out it already carried a powerful meaning: to consciously and intentionally determine your own path in life, rather than following a predefined one set by others or by societal expectations.
When I read that, I knew I was exactly where I was meant to be. Because that’s my story—and the story I want other women, especially moms, to see as possible too.
What Does It Mean to Define Your Way?
“Defining your way” isn’t just about making bold choices. It’s about taking back your power when life has boxed you in. It’s deciding that your voice, your dreams, your pace, and your values matter—no matter what anyone else has to say about it.
Here are some of the key pieces I’ve discovered along my journey (and ones you can start practicing today):
1. Create Your Own Definition of Success
The world will tell you that success means money, status, or picture-perfect balance. But I’ve learned that success is deeply personal. For me, success looks like being present for my kids, building generational wealth, and teaching other women how to reclaim control of their lives.
Ask yourself: What does success look like for me—without anyone else’s filter?
2. Establish a Personal Purpose
Your purpose is the “why” that keeps you going, even when the days get hard. It doesn’t have to be a big, world-changing mission. Sometimes it’s as simple as showing your kids another way of living, or proving to yourself that you’re stronger than your circumstances.
For me, my purpose is about breaking cycles of poverty and overwhelm—and teaching other women to do the same.
3. Identify Your Core Values
Values are your compass. They’re the non-negotiables that guide your choices when life gets noisy. For me, values like freedom, family, faith, and growth have shaped every major pivot in my life and business.
Take a moment to reflect: What values are you willing to build your life on?
4. Embrace Your Passions and Strengths
Your passions aren’t “just hobbies.” They’re clues to what lights you up and what makes you unstoppable. The more I leaned into what I was naturally good at—teaching, encouraging, creating systems—the more my business aligned with my life.
Stop dimming your light. That thing you keep pushing to the side? It might just be your breakthrough.
5. Actively Choose Your Life’s Path
Here’s the truth: nobody’s coming to hand you the life you want. You have to decide to build it, step by step, even if you’re scared. I’ve had to start over more than once, but each time, it was a choice—a conscious decision to stop waiting and start moving.
✨Ready for a Reset?
If you’re reading this and realizing you’ve been living life on autopilot or based on someone else’s definition of success, this is your sign to hit reset.
I created the Glow-Up Map just for you—a free, step-by-step guide to help you get unstuck, find clarity, and start creating a life that feels like yours again.
👉Download your free Glow-Up Map here
Why This Matters to Me (and to You)
When I say Defining My Way, it’s not just a business name—it’s my life’s testimony. I’ve walked through poverty, trauma, grief, and setbacks. I’ve been the teenage mom who was told she’d never make it. And I’ve also been the woman who turned pain into purpose and built something that now supports other moms doing the same.
And I believe you can do it too.
Take the Next Step
If you’re serious about finding direction, purpose, and a system to actually follow through, I created the Busy Mom’s Purpose Map—a simple, powerful resource that helps you clarify your “why” and set goals that stick.
And if you’re ready for the full reset? The Reset & Rise Bundle combines both the Purpose Map and my full eBook Built From the Struggle—your blueprint for starting over with clarity and confidence.
Because defining your way isn’t just about dreaming—it’s about building a life that finally feels like yours.